This heading really struck a chord with me. I clicked on it right away. Turns out it was about working in an office, then staying at home under COVID, so I could relate to that; but this was a far more serious case involving discrimination. His or her full post is here.
So very different, but a kernel of truth that related to me in there: I liked and could relate to his or her conclusion: I don’t want my old social skills back. He’s happy with giving less effs than before, and targeting more well-deserved effs where they’re deserved. And so am I.
Some of the comments on that post were great, too:
- ‘I have worked through my people-pleasing issues;’
- ‘I am curbing ‘a life-long habit of “giving ‘effs” to others who really did not deserve the deference?’
- ‘It’s not that I dislike people, and have given them the mental “heave-ho,” instead it is that I love myself enough now to no longer allow my peace and sense of self to be captured and manipulated by others (even well-meaning others).’
I like to think its all part of a well thought out logical process. But it could, of course, just be the normal progression of life: